What do I do now? Do I tell my wife about everything I’ve found out thanks to a lot of you? Do I just ignore everything and live a happy blinded life? Or, do I fade and come up with a story on why I’m fading? What to do? What to do?
Only you know your wife and how she reacts to big, life altering news. I left after a short fade. It didn’t even occur to me that my wife might leave me if I leave the “truth". I knew my wife would be sad about me leaving but I never thought she would leave me. I had a friend who told me “If I did what you are doing, my wife would leave me for sure.” I said to him “What kind of love is that?” He had no response. I haven’t talked to him for months.
A year and a half after I left, my wife told me she was ready to leave the “truth” about a year after we married.(we've been married 10 years this June) She stayed in for me and her family. It took her that year and a half to come out to me that she never fully believed the lies. That came as a shock to me. I never knew how she truly felt abt this cult. She waited so long after I left to tell me because she wanted to make sure it wasn’t a faze I was going through. Now she is totally faded along with me.
If I thought for a second my wife would leave me for leaving the cult, I would have done things different.
Think hard about what type of woman your wife is and if you’re prepared to be miserable. You have 4 paths, 1- you stay in and are miserable. 2- you leave and your wife leaves you. 3- you leave and your wife stays with you but is always disappointed with you and your choices even if she doesn’t tell you how she really feels. Or hopefully 4- you both leave together and remain happy.
Your gut will guide you. Trust your gut. It got you this far.
Good luck.